Self Esteem, Self Deception and Your Fitness Goals

Self Esteem, Self Deception and Your Fitness Goals

 

 

I’ve been thinking a lot about self-esteem lately, particularly how our beliefs about ourselves can get in the way of not only achieving our goals but even keep us from setting them…

 

In my mind self-esteem is the result of keeping the promises you make to yourself.

 

There are other factors involved, for instance, I’m especially smitten with research on posture and stress hormones and the viscous or virtuous cycle created between physiology and psychology…

 

But we’ll save that for later, let’s keep it simple for now…

 

If we acknowledge that we’re unsatisfied in an area of our lives, ideally we will set goals and standards for ourselves, and get motivated to live up to them. Far more often I see people getting motived to take an action, without a clear outcome.

 

See, motivation can go on like a switch. We make a promise to ourselves and we feel excited to start on our journeys, whether it’s a new job, finishing a degree, or finally looking and feeling our best…

 

We press our work clothes, buy our books, get healthy food or start a training program, ready to succeed! We’re a little nervous but excited to get started…

 

However, failure doesn’t come in with such fanfare, no it’s more like a volume knob, slowly turning down, one bad meal, 2 missed workouts, and in the end…

 

One promise broken, a promise you made to yourself.

 

I think many of us are at least subconsciously aware of this, because many of us struggle at setting goals or even acknowledging what they would like to achieve. The scary part about this is deep down we all know what the goal or outcome we wanted was, but it seemed too big, or too daunting.

 

The problem with taking action without setting a goal is you miss out on the self-esteem that comes from keeping those small promises to yourself….

 

If a big goal scares you, set a goal to workout 3 times a week and make some modest changes but specific to your nutrition, and then let that victory fuel your trust in yourself to make a bigger promise!

 

I’ll share a recent goal I set, but first, let me explain why I set it. I believe we all wake up with two sets of dominos laid out for us, success dominos, and failure dominoes.

 

Every night when we set our alarms we’re setting our first goal of the day. Get out of bed and turn that alarm off and you’ve just hit your first success domino, hit the snooze button and you’ve already lied to yourself…

 

If you think that’s a silly example, have you or someone you’ve known ever set your alarm for earlier than you have to get up or set your clock fast so you wouldn’t be late? That’s inception level self-deception and I know it because I did it for the first 30 years of my life!

 

While I’ve been proud to call myself a morning person for the better part of a decade, over the past year I rekindled my affair with that damn snooze button. Now imagine it as a red failure domino and I won’t touch it.

 

What promise would you like to make to yourself? I’d be happy to help…

 

I’d like to offer everyone the opportunity to sit down and talk through your goals. I mean everyone, every Triber, and anyone reading this blog who wants to stop in, do a free workout and put some goals on paper.

 

Just call or shoot us a text at 610-536-6350 and let us know your name and the you’d like to set a goal!

 

Committed to your success,

Jesse