Rosie’s Ramblings – Confidence

Have you ever felt like you were on top of the world? That you could conquer absolutely anything that came your way?

On an opposite note, have you ever felt like you were so awful at something, you didn’t even want to try?

Most times, confidence stems from practicing something over and over again until you gain the confidence that you are really awesome at it. The aura around you shifts. People notice you carry yourself taller and can feel the confidence oozing out of every pore in your body.

It doesn’t happen overnight.

It takes time to get to that level of being so sure of your abilities.

I always go by the phrase “fake it until you make it.” You continually do something, pretending you’re good at it, until one day you wake up and you are.

But on the opposite token – what about when the confidence is lost? Slipped away out of your grasp. It feels like a dizzying downward spiral. One minute you’re on cloud nine, the next you’ve fallen into the depths of despair.

My sophomore year of college, I was one of the best runners in the country. The following year, I missed Nationals by one spot in both cross country and track after being slated as one to look out for. My senior year, I barely placed in my conference.

My confidence was flushed down the drain and rotting in a sewer.

Going from great to mediocre was heart-wrenching. I felt like a fluke. A one-hit wonder.

But I never gave up. Despite the torture it felt like I was putting myself through, I refused to let my team, coaches, and school down. I pressed on and remained upbeat and positive around my teammates.

I had to find the confidence of being the best again. So, I faked it. I walked around with my head held high and told myself that every day is one step closer to where I used to be.

I might not have ended up with a National title, but I ended my senior year winning my heat of the 1500m race. It wasn’t a best time. It wasn’t a new school record. It wasn’t a National cut. It wasn’t anything that I had done so often my sophomore year that you’d think it just came second nature to me. But it was a huge achievement from where I was. I pulled myself out of the depths and back into the light.

Often, our biggest critics are ourselves. We pick ourselves to pieces, not realizing the repercussions that can ensue. We tell ourselves not to even try because we are afraid we will fail or make a fool of ourselves. But the only way to gain confidence is to do just that – try, fail, and try again.

I didn’t say it would be easy; but it will be worth it. You’re going to take a few punches here and there, but the biggest thing is to get up and keep going. Conquering what’s standing in your way will only help you to continue to grow as a human. And the more you conquer it, the more confidence you will have in yourself. It’s a win-win.

It’s okay to be scared or feel foolish. Those emotions are natural responses to any new situation. But emotions are a state of being. They are constantly shifting. And as you change and grow, so too will the emotions, and you’ll find yourself believing in yourself and what you can do more and more.

So go after it. Give it a try. Fail…

And keep pressing on.

Rosie’s Ramblings – Leadership

When I think of a leader, I think of someone who is poised. Someone who is able to motivate action. Someone who is a role model to others.

A leader to you, might mean something different. We all have slightly different views and opinions on what makes a great leader.

Recently, I read an article on leadership superpowers. They weren’t the norm. It wasn’t your typical communication, managerial type leader. These were deep down qualities of personality. These are things that can’t really be taught, but can be honed over time; things such as empathy, discernment, and altruism.

Qualities that not only make for a good leader, but a great human being.

Not all of us are called to lead people. Some of us are meant to follow, learn, and grow from a leader. These leaders are meant to help us to become the best you that you want to be.

However, while we aren’t all meant to lead others…we all must lead our own lives. You need to be the leader of you. You need to decide who you are and where you want to go. You can’t just sit there and let life HAPPEN to you. You need to create the life you imagine. There is only one person who can do that. It’s not your boss, your husband, or your parents. It’s you. You need to steer yourself in the direction of your choosing. You forge the path to success. The only one standing in your way is you.

Take control of your life and stop letting excuses get in your way. Ultimately, you are the one responsible for your actions, so let them be full of purpose. Laziness doesn’t get you far. Find your motivation and set your soul on fire. Continue to rekindle that fire any time it starts to grow weak by finding a new outlook on life. Keep yourself ablaze full of optimism and excitement for life. Never let the success you achieve get to your head, rather, let the happiness you feel from leading the life you imagined continue to guide you.

Be the leader of your life and see what starts to happen.

“We become the stories we tell and believe about ourselves.”

Rosie’s Ramblings – Discipline

I admit, I love to watch Cesar Milan. It’s the transformations. This dog that was deemed “aggressive” and who everyone was scared of, is now, a happy go-lucky dog. During a show this week Cesar said something that got me rambling…”discipline is the bridge from goals to success.”

I can harp on and on about having goals and working to achieve them…but what I failed to mention all this time was discipline. Without the discipline to refrain from eating that candy bar, to get to bed on time, to not hit the snooze button, then the transformation you WANT is going to remain just that. A dream.

Staying on the path can be tough. Life has so many distractions and so many indulgences that sometimes it feels like you are being pulled in 19 different directions. That’s when being disciplined takes hold.

Discipline is the follow through on your goals. It’s doing what you need to do even if you don’t want to. It’s putting in the work. It’s not letting distractions get in your way.

If these dog-owners didn’t follow through with the homework Cesar assigned, the dogs would revert back to their previous state. Same goes for us. The homework is doing your due-diligence. If you don’t follow through with what’s happening in your nutrition, your workouts, your sleep habits, etc – then how do you ever expect to make a lasting change?

A transformation involves more than just the before and after of the physical body, it’s the mental state that needs to be altered too. You have to want to make the change. You have to want the results. And you have to want it enough to do everything you can to make it happen.

Tasha’s Tips ~ “Fall”-ing into Fitness

Summer is now over, the kiddos are back in school it is time to get into a new routine. Don’t let this ruin those fitness goals you have been striving for. Try a few of these tips to keep that motivation going!

~Take in the Beautiful Scenery~
The weather is getting cooler, take a stroll in the park or go for an adventurous hike in the woods. Watch the leaves turn those pretty yellow, orange and red colors! Exercising doesn’t always have to be a sweaty mess. This way you are still exercising while taking in the cooler weather and scenery. You definitely want to get those walks and hikes in before the winter decides to stroll in.

~Safety is Key~
With that being said, please be safe! Now that it is the fall season our days become shorter which means our mornings and evenings become darker. This shouldn’t stop you from taking that stroll, however be safe about it! Make sure you are wearing reflective workout gear, carry a small flashlight and always know your path! Better yet head to your local track…one it is safer and two the lights are USUALLY on! 🙂

~Know your Workout Gear~
Fall seasons tend to have different weather changes, one minute it could be hot, the next cold. Always make sure you are dressing appropriately. Breathable workout clothing is best, because you will be chilly at first, but once you start that hike or run your body temperature will rise, so you don’t want to be too overdressed. Another fun tip~Wear a hat on those chilly mornings. You lose the most heat from your head, therefore that hat will keep it insulated.

~Learn from the Kids~
The children are back in school learning so many new things, why shouldn’t you too?! Take this season to learn something new. Whether it be how to cook an awesome Paleo friendly dish, or even trying out a new session such as Chrissy Jay’s Triple A, Running with Rosie or even going to Yoga in Newtown Square on Sunday’s. Switch things up a bit and challenge yourselves!

~Fall Seven times and Stand up Eight~ Japanese Proverb

Rosie’s Ramblings – Preparation

Growing up, I was always trying to keep up (and surpass) my older brothers. Because of that, I desperately wanted to become a boy scout…so I tagged along with my brothers. From meetings, to pinewood derbys, to camping trips, I was constantly learning. While I wish I could have earned merit badges and pursued the ultimate goal of becoming an eagle scout, the biggest message that was hammered into me was the boy scout motto of “be prepared.” Whatever the situation, know how to handle it.

The boy scouts have it right.

Life throws curve balls and situations that you never thought you would find yourself in. Yet, you need to use your resources, draw from past experiences, and develop a plan to best execute a way out.

Spraying bug spray into a fire may not be the smartest idea, but it’s now my secret weapon when the fire just won’t light or is going to die out too soon.

You have to do everything in your power to be as ready as you can be for what’s to come. There will be times when you find yourself in unchartered territory. But that doesn’t mean that all of what you have done in the past goes by the wayside. Every experience brings a new lesson to draw from in the future. Make smart moves, make a mistake, learn, and move on. Your end goal shouldn’t be easily attainable. You should have to figure out how to properly prepare yourself to reach them.

How many times have you gone to the gym and felt like you walked around in a circle not sure what machine to use or what exercise to do? There was no plan.

How many times have you found yourself in the kitchen wondering what to eat and opt for a bag of chips because you didn’t have any other options? There was no preparation.

There are solutions to every problem, you just have to be willing to find the answer. Once you put all the preparation together and the time needed, you’ll find your way.

“By failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail.”